You need to make sure that she is being covered by Regional Center. If she is not, call your local Regional Center and sign her up. SHe should also be given services through her school district. Advocate for that.
You should be getting in-home therapy for her, at no expense to you. Ask her therapist to address this . . . they are there to help you and her. You also should be entitled to respite care, which is a real life-saver.
Violent tantrumming is very known to happen with certain types of Autistic kids. They usually are unable to express their feelings and are very easily overstimulated. Keep things calm, very structured, and talk to the therapist about what you should do when she tantrums. Because she is autistic, you need to treat it differently.
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at 10:56 PM on Apr. 19, 2011