After a emotional/verbal abusive relationship where things got thrown, smashed in front of my newborn, so many fights I couldn't count and namecalling "c**t" in front of my son downright statements like "I hate you, you should die or get raped" "youre nothing but leftovers" etc. I've finally deceided to leave. I don't know where to begin.
My car was totaled, I used to majority of the insurance money for my sons medical bills
My ex took the rest for a attorney bill, promising to pay it back he never did.
I have little, yet things to move, babys bed/things a TV etc
I have NOT been working the last year with him because his work was as a contractor and we've been moving around literally living in hotels for 4-6 months.
You may ask why I was stupid enough to put myself in this position, but I always had hope, but he's yet to get help for his PTSD issues and I can't do it anymore, my son is almost one and he knows when we're fighting and he gets scared of his Dad now, he crawls to me and starts crying.
Point is I've relied on him, I moved because I deceided I'd give it my all.
I've no family and very few friends. No close living friends because of all the moving.The only people who've offered me a place to stay are some guys I've previously known from my single days and I'd rather stay in a homeless shelter than put myself or my son at the charity or mercy of another man ...I cannot do that.
I literally don't have money for a bus ticket back to where I'm "from". I'm scared, because everything from my food, to my phone line has been provided by him. At the time he said he'd provide, I was stupid because he also controls everything now. I do love him and wanted things to work, so I hoped & never left even on days when I felt strong enough because I didn't have the resources..
I got myself into this mess and getting out is the hardest part. I'm still living with him, but want out.
I know there are resources out there for women and I want to know just how to go about getting them. If I need a homeless shelter, it's fine. So be it, I'd rather this happen now, then when my son is 5. I would work, but I worry about the cost of daycare, making enough $ to provide etc. I don't know where to start, please someone, can you recommend any sites or how to go about it? I live in CA and if anyone knows laws here, and help I could get here, that would help. Thank you.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:58 AM on Apr. 20, 2011 in Relationships
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