I need some advice. My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for less than one. Recently, we had a fight where he said I wasn't treating his kids right. They are kids from a previous marriage. Boys - 8 and 11. Their mother isn't in the picture and their dad has full custody because the state took them away from her. That means they live with us full time. My husband and I have never had an us, it's always been an me and them kind of situation. I constantly struggle for his attention with them. I tried stepping in and filling the mother role for them since they never really had one that was there. All this has done is filled me with resentment and anger. I feel terrible for having these kinds of feelings, but I need someone to tell me that what I am feeling is okay. Also that I am not the only one that feels this way. Somewhat like a stranger in their own home. Any advice, words of wisdom, encouragement, or just anything would be appreciated. I do want to add to this that we haven't had custody of them forever, only for the last 3 years. Their mother was in the picture for alittle bit but we had to cut that because she was doing more harm to them than good. The 11 year old and I don't seem to have problems, it's more the 8 year old who seems to just do everything he can to exploit any crack he finds. It's drives me insane. That might be why I'm feeling this way - kind of like his father doesn't realize his own son is sabatoging his new marriage.
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