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Keys to a successful marriage....

What is in your opinion is the key to a successful and happy marriage?

What would your advice be for someone that is getting married soon?

Thank you for your answers!!!!

 
LiLJeni

Asked by LiLJeni at 11:16 AM on Apr. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (13)
  • Communication, respect and trust!! Keep your disagreements between you and your spouse, don't broadcast them to your mother, your sister, your best friend and all over the internet. Don't trash talk your spouse to other people. Always say "I love you" when you're leaving, and have a date night as often as you can. Take care of his needs, so he won't fell compelled to get his needs met elsewhere.Don't leave an argument unresolved and realize that you don't HAVE to be right ALL THE TIME. Apologizing and moving on is more important than being right and getting in the last word.
    Bethsunshine

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 11:55 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • Open communication, honesty with each other, make time for each other but don't forget each of you also need your own time, NOT forgetting what made you fall in love with each other in the first place, picking your battles - not everything is worth an argument, realistic goals, never discuss anything while you are still hot with anger - cool off first - you will see everything differently & will be much more productive.
    specialwingz

    Answer by specialwingz at 11:20 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • always always talk to your spouse if you think there is a problem..my #1 thing is ppl do not communicate..be open about your opinions and go from there..talk our your issues..my advice would be take things one day at a time..you are going to have your ups and downs..and keep your marriage issues to yourself dont go telling your friends, family etc..bc most of the time misery loves company and if someone knows you are having issues they will feed on it..there is really no difference than dating if you have dated a long time..it just comes with special perks lol..good luck
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:21 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • The Key: Open Communication, even in disagreement

    Advise: When you get mad, always look back and remember why it was you fell in love in the first place AND try and make it a point to always give your SO compliments and make sure they know they are appreciated.
    Kword

    Answer by Kword at 11:20 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • Communication, don't sweat the petty things, be lovey dovey (kiss, cuddle, hug, hold hands) even if you don't want to
    sweetpea1217

    Answer by sweetpea1217 at 11:21 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • Relationships don't HAVE to be work. If you have the right person and you are on the same wave length there is hardly any work at all. They should make you want to be a better person without telling you to do it- you should want to do it for them and them for you.

    The main key? IMO. You have to be friends. If you don't like hanging out and doing the same things and overall enjoy each other's company- that is not a relationship or love.
    meandrphoto

    Answer by meandrphoto at 11:21 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • I agree. Communication is huge.
    1smartcookie

    Answer by 1smartcookie at 11:22 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • Most couples don't know how to communicate, yet everyone agrees communication is the most important key to a great marriage. My advice - see a counselor and learn how to communicate before getting married. I wish they taught it in schools.
    RobotLady

    Answer by RobotLady at 11:27 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • KEEP A GOOD LINE OF COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR HUSBAND.
    YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING , SMALL OR BIG.
    AGREE TO DISAGREE . ALSO , KNOW THAT YOU WILL HAVE ARGUMENTS
    AND JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE ONE DOENSNT MEAN ITS THE END OF
    THE MARRIAGE.
    westin

    Answer by westin at 11:29 AM on Apr. 20, 2011

  • be friends first, know eachother awhile at least 1-2 years, do a background check, go to pre-marriage counseling, met eachother family, don't go to bed mad, be the same religion or beliefs, have a weekly date night even after your marriage, be marriage at least 1 year before having children , write down each persons responsibilities in the house, pick your battles aka let the small stuff go, know each others credit history, dating history NO secrets.. this is the advice I wish someone had given me.
    maiahlynn

    Answer by maiahlynn at 11:32 AM on Apr. 20, 2011