DH and I haven't had sex in three months... Yes, I said months. I don't know what to do! He is my first (and only), and things used to be great--multiple times a day, every day... Then it withered to a few times a week, then every 2 weeks, then once a month.. Now nothing... I try, but really, there's not much I can do, because I don't know how to seduce or anything... Usually it was we were horny and we went at it like rabbits... Now, with stress from work and kids, we rarely have any time alone, and when we do, we're worn out and just want to relax...Someone, please give me ideas to spice things up to maybe get him interested again? I won't do anal (just not happening), and I refuse to allow him to cum in my mouth (though I will tease with my mouth). I've tried sneaking him home mid-day for a quickie when our kids are napping or at school, but there's only so many times I can do that before even that becomes "expected". HELP!!!!
P.S. Our problem is that he's addicted to porn. He watches it and relieves himself, I think because things are so "blah", but in my defense, I always offer to try something new and he always wants missionary. He refuses counseling, so please don't tell me he needs that-I know, I've asked, and I'm still trying to get him to go. It's ruining our marriage!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:18 PM on Apr. 20, 2011 in Relationships
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Answer by chrstny88 at 12:32 PM on Apr. 20, 2011
When he is watching porn I would slip on something sexy and stand in front of the TV and maybe touch yourself or get on your knees and use your mouth as pleasure. When the kids are playing take him off to the bed room or bathroom and tease him a little just enough to make him want you then be done do that a few times in one day by evening when the kids are in bed he will want you. My personal favorite is while he is asleep wake him up by putting his cock in your mouth that should wake him up ready to pounce on you.
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