I wasnt even going to vent about this because I know everyone is going to tell me that it's not a big deal, that I'm making myself upset over nothing, yadda, yadda, yadda...but hell...I'm mad and maybe getting it out will help me calm down before DH gets home and I might get some good advice at the same time so here it goes....
Okay....so the other day Richie (DH) told me that his mother wanted to come to church with us..already in my head I'm thinking "groooaan...I DO NOT feel like dealing with this woman" for those of you who arent familiar with my MIL rants I'll give you just a little background...MIL is super critical, she is always and forever giving me "advice" about how I should be raising my daughter...and I mean DETAILED "advice", down to what I should be doing with her before I put her down for her nap! When I don't agree with a part of her parenting style ( I don't really agree with any of it but I humor her sometimes) she makes this noise in the back of her throat and has this stupid mildly surprised look on her face...the list goes on and on....she calls me ALL THE TIME so I guess she likes me or whatever ... maybe she's just critical by nature I don't know but yeah....
Anyways yesterday she called me at 11 in the morning but I was in the middle of something so I didnt answer and she didnt leave a message, then she called me again at 7 that night but I was gone and left my phone and by the time I got home it was too late to call her back, so awhile ago I finally listened to the message she left and she's talking about how Richard told her that I'm cooking Sunday dinner and she wanted to know if she could bring anything.... WHAT????? I'm making DINNER???? First all Rich said to me is that she was coming to church with us! I didnt even know she was supposed to be coming over after that...to me church and coming over to dinner is not the same thing...second...why didnt he tell me I'm pose to making dinner? Why am I finding this out through her??? Let me explain...I am a BEGINNER cook...I don't even like cooking for HIM...let alone someone who (according to Richie, although I don't like her food) is a wonderful cook...Like I said she is SUPER critical (chastising me about my 4yr old daughter's bed not being made) I don't want to do this and I feel incredibly put upon.....I understand that this is not a big deal for everyone but for me it pisses me off! Especially once I called him and he's like "Oh, well I assumed you knew...." I tell him all the time DO NOT ASSUME THINGS WHEN IT COMES TO ME......Okay...I'm running out of steam so I guess I'm done lol
Putting up w/your MIL is exHAUSTING-(I know, I have one of those lol). I think you have a right to be upset & I have been through that. And then I got fed up w/my husband never sticking up for me or letting me know what was going on so eventually I called her. I thought well maybe he is afraid to speak his mind so I will. I told her she needs to talk to me when it comes to things like that. Basically if it involves ME then I need to know before everyone else does. I finally told my husband NO. I'm not going to Sunday dinner, or she's not coming over, or no she cannot have the kids tomorrow. (I figured what's the worst that can happen? Keep sex from him & he'll totally start to come around haha)
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