We lived in a suburb of Los Angeles that was quite pricey. I was laid off from my job so my husband gave me a choice. He said "either find a job OR we will move to (a cheaper city)". I chose to move since it sounded like a more peaceful lifestyle about an hour north of where we currently were. So our house payment went from $1,450/month to $1,000/month. Everything was great until my unemployment ran out. Then he realizes that I still need to work. But this is AFTER I enroll in school that we had both discussed I would do.
So my dilemma now is that I'm a bit (a lot) annoyed because I not only moved to a small city where there are NO jobs (he commutes an hour each way daily) but now we're not near my parents (who could help babysit). I'm basically screwed.
Am I right in being annoyed? I mean, honestly, he said move OR work... I picked moved and now I still have to work!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:23 PM on Apr. 20, 2011 in Money & Work
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 8:27 PM on Apr. 20, 2011
I think you both have a right to be annoyed at yourselves. (did that make sense?)
You should both be upset that you both didnt think it through. You both KNEW that at some point the unemployment would run out. You both are capable of figuring out a budget. So you both screwed up the planning.
But the bottom line is that being annoyed, mad, fussy, etc is counter productive. And you both need to sit back down with a paper and pencil and figure out a budget that will work. If you are a sahm, work nights so there is no sitter, work full time and give up school, move back, etc... what ever you two come up with double check those numbers, be creative, but most importantly go into it TOGETHER... NOT pointing the finger at the other one, being upset with the other one, etc.
You are a team... for better!!
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