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Ladies..are you the one in relationship who...

Starts pulling away at some point? I am. Things can be great and all of the sudden I wake up on day and want out. Nothing to do with SO, I just want my life back. Not that I want to go date others or party, I just want to be by myself. I am very independent and have a hard time being with someone.

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Asked by Nickcole23 at 8:43 AM on Apr. 21, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Nope but we do take time for ourselves frequently so that we don't feel that way.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 8:44 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • Sort of. I am very independent as well and I sometimes find myself thinking why I'm with someone at all (and I've been married 25+ years). I just feel at times that maybe a part-time marriage (though completely impractical) would work much better for me!

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:45 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • I agree with Jademom, can't you take a day for yourself once a week?
    Either have a GNO or just go out solo and have some time for yourself?

    Think about the reasons you feel in love with your SO, would that help?

    Answer by ItsJustMe1017 at 8:46 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • I am a full time mommy have her 100%. I do go every 3 months for a hair cut, so I get an hour to myself then. My family and I are not close so they have never watched her. My SO has watched her so I could go home and clean and do laundry.

    Comment by Nickcole23 (original poster) at 8:52 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • My SO has watched her so I could go home and clean and do laundry.

    Is this her father? If so, he shouldn't 'watch' her. He is not a babysitter. He should take an active role in her life. Every week, start scheduling something to do that is not cleaning house. Walk the mall and window shop, go take a lunch with a friend...something. he will not volunteer so sign him up.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 8:58 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • No! We try to do a lot together, but I have days when I call my two sisters and we go out for lunch and drinks while the kids are in school, but other than that, I really enjoy spending time with my BF. He's a great guy, and plus our relationship is still fairly new, so ask me again in a few months.

    Answer by ambr2006 at 9:00 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • You don't like commitment. Or maybe you have not found the one that you cannot let go of. It will happen.

    Answer by bobby1991 at 9:01 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • Not only do Mommy and wives NEED alone time, but we deserve it! I use to think my alone time was my 30 minute car ride to/from work but then I realized I want/need and deserve some ME to. No SO, no kids, no work or cleaning. Just me me me. Sometimes when I get it I literally just lay on the couch all day eating without having to share and watching tv or movies I want to watch. Find a high school girl to babysit and go out for yourself. Its hard but you deserve it girlie!

    Answer by daina82 at 9:01 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • No, he is not the father. We are at his house a lot, and when I leave to go home to my house and clean or do laundry there have been a few times he said she could stay there with him and his boys and go do what I needed to. Wow, I didnt know your SO are not allowed to "watch" kids. I know he is not the babysitter. I guess your statement would apply to the 2 times I have been sick and he "watched" her so I could go to the Dr.. Does that make me his babysitter when I have watched his kids so he can run to the store or if he got called into work (Airforce) for half a day orfwork. I thought in a relationship you help each other.

    Comment by Nickcole23 (original poster) at 9:09 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

  • try finding someone who is as independent as you are. If you feel you can't live a free life with your guy, then he is not right for you.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:09 AM on Apr. 21, 2011

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