I went grocery shopping this morning. When I grocery shop, I get most of my food for 2 weeks, it is cheaper this way and I get tempted half as often to buy extra junk. Anyway I was at the checkout with my basket overflowing. I go to pay with my food stamp card as then left. As I left the woman who was behind me in line stopped me and said " I wish I could get that much food for MY family, we have to stretch our food bill but here you are buying $200 worth of food on food stamps. I said "yes, I am buying for 2 weeks, it saves money" and she said "well while we are sitting down to our small dinner tonight, I'll know your family eats well on MY DIME. I said "your dime????" But then I calmed down and said "well if you really don't have enough to eat, maybe you should apply for food stamps and feed your children instead of criticizing me for doing so". I know it looks like either we are pigs or I have an army of children because I buy for 2 weeks (and yes, that includes GASP 2 bags of chips AND 2 things of ice cream) so I try to just ignore people but I just hate how people think they have the right to put me down because they are having trouble and they are too proud to take the help. I don't brag about my food stamps nor did I apply for every program I was eligible for, I take the help I need and hope to not need any soon
Asked by Anonymous at 10:51 AM on Apr. 21, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by NotPanicking at 4:13 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by Orionsgirl at 10:57 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by tnm786 at 11:07 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 10:55 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
I think you handled it pretty well; I might not have been so controlled or nice. I loved your "maybe she should apply for food-stamps" response, wish I could have been there to see the expression on her face. Many people think that everyone on food-stamps is abusing and cheating the system. Many people don't understand that there are currently MILLIONS of us struggling to make ends meet in this economy and many of us for the first time ever have had to get food stamps to do that. I'm sorry that woman took her bad day out on you. I hope things get better for you soon and like most of us are looking forward to the day we no longer have to use food stamps to survive.
Answer by meooma at 11:03 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:56 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by kaylan010 at 10:55 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by louise2 at 10:58 AM on Apr. 21, 2011
It's not about being too proud not to get assistance, it's about knowing it wrong to get assistance just to make things easier. OP, I don't know what your situation is so this isn't directed at you specifically. But many people on assistance could get by without it. Not comfortably, but they could. My kids go without things they want every week because we are on a budget. If it was a matter of not being able to feed them I'd get assistance in a heartbeat. But the fact that I have shop very carefully and fore go luxuries is just a fact of life and it's one I want my children to understand.
Answer by maxswolfsuit at 7:53 AM on Apr. 22, 2011
Answer by fricky29 at 11:02 AM on Apr. 21, 2011