My oldest son has moved in, gotten kicked out over and over again.... we did this back and forth thing from the time he was 18 and moved out right after graduation until about 2 years ago - when I had my final straw with him and put him out - then I moved away.
In this last couple years (well more like a year and a half) he's had to stand on his own - and he's done okay. Kept his own place, worked two jobs, paid his own way and did his own thing.
In that time his and my relationship has healed a lot.
We've always told him that if he would go to school, act like a normal human being, be respectful and not all hateful and moody (LOL like a pubescent and hormonal teenager) then he could live with us, we'd pay for his school and he'd only have to work part time to pay for his own gas, cigarettes, etc. He was SUPPOSED to go to college in the fall after he graduated high school - but decided to take a "break" before going to school - yeah, like that ever works out the way they think it will.
So here we are now - he's 22 (going on 23 in a couple of months) and he's finally decided that he wants to re-invent his life; stop the stuff he's been doing and finally get down to business.
We NOW live 8 hours from him - and he wants to come live with us and go to trade school to learn to be a welder. We have (like any parent) always told him that when he decided to pull his head out his ass and grow up that we would do our best to try to help him (with limitations and rules of course). We *can afford to send him to trade school and I really, really want to see my son finally do something with his life.
-- BUT *I* am really nervous about the possibility of him moving in and it going down hill again.
It's been so nice getting along with him from a distance - I do and have missed him. I love him just to pieces (and boy implementing tough love has sure been hell on me) - I don't want that ruined *if he should move back in and not do what he's supposed to do.
We haven't given him any answer yet - he just posed the idea to me today, so my head is kinda swimming at the moment.
Ladies give me your honest, heart-felt thoughts.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:01 PM on Apr. 21, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
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