On some other boards I go to, there are moms that seem like they're anticipating someone to "wrong" their child so they can go for blood. Child comes home from school and says they got in trouble for something they didn't do, the parent is ready to call the principal immediately (before even asking the teacher what happened). Child comes inside and says a neighborhood kid pushed them, they're on the phone to the other kid's parents before they get a bandaid out. And in those ongoing "girl wars" between 8 and 16, any time their daughter is in a "fighting" stage instead of a "bff" stage, they're ready to mobilize and try to turn every girl in the neighborhood against the "evil" one (meaning, the one who isn't their daughter), if it means they have to call every mother in town.
What kind of creeps me out is when they post about these things, one or two others may speak up and suggest the path of reason (talk to the teacher first, let the kids work it out on their own, etc), but a dozen others are pumping them up, cheering them on, telling them to go fight for their kid. At one point, they were encouraging a mother to go to the school board because her child was punished for breaking a classroom rule that she'd been informed about in writing at the start of the year, but she thought it was a dumb rule, so therefore, thought her child should be exempt.
Is this the "new normal" for parenting, and I just happen to not deal with a lot of mothers like this in real life? Are people really getting that involved in the petty squabbles of their children's lives in reality?
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:01 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by vbruno at 10:02 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:04 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by Nicoles2LilRams at 10:07 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by dullscissors at 10:17 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
I've been teaching for 16 years and some parents are very much like what you and vbruno describe. They are usually the same parent, but could be completely different (one being the overbearing parent, the other being the 'i don't care parent'. They could care less and give their kids things so the kids don't bother them, but when they kid goes to them all upset over a perceived insult or infraction against them, suddenly they want to be parent of the year and get all up in the Kool aid without even knowing the flavor. Then, there is my personal favorite--the "Not my child' parent--they are the parents who have perfect little angels for children and even if you showed them video tape of their child doing something, someone MADE their child do it because their little darlings wouldn't do such a thing without being forced to do so.
Answer by layh41407 at 10:22 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by ItsJustMe1017 at 10:27 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:32 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
I could not agree with you more- it's pretty scary to read some of these questions and responses. Sometimes shitty things just happen and we have to deal with them- that's life. You have to wonder what kind of adults these children are going to grow up to be.
Answer by skittles1108 at 10:46 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
Answer by brypmom at 10:52 PM on Apr. 21, 2011
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