When I recently told my daughter, 16, that she is not allowed to do something, she reacted first with defiance, then anger...all expected...but then she expresses all this hurt, like "you don't want me to be happy, you don't trust me, I'm not good enough, I hate myself, and this (the thing you won't allow me to do) makes me happy", and my favorite, "you expect too much of me, I'm only 16". THEN it's, "you treat me like a baby, I'm 16 and in a year and a half, I'll be 18". She seems to live in a fantasy land where she gets to hang out with a boyfriend when/where she wants (not happening), take naps in the afternoon, spends lots of time on the computer (Tumblr & facebook) won't get her license ("I'm scared of driving") and won't get a job ("I need to have my license, and I hated that last job"). She had a job right down the street (the only close option that she could walk/ride her bike to), and all she did was complain about it and how it stressed her out and she had no free time. Had a different boyfriend at the time. She worked Friday after school and Saturdays. We let her quit on the understanding that she would get her license and another job, and use the extra time to volunteer, which she's done bit, but mostly wants to go out w/bf, have fun. She is a good student and wants to go to college. When I was her age I had my license, an after school job, and then my own car, because I earned it. I filled out all the college forms myself and got myself there...I was no angel, but my parents trusted me because I was really responsible. I never got into any real trouble. I feel sorry for her in a way, but then I want to strangle her because not only does she whine to me, but now to the bf that I'm controlling/mean. Then of course that's where she gets her sympathy...I have felt stressed and sick all week because of our relationship, I can't even eat or sleep much. It's gotten so complicated. We used to be so much closer, but now all we do is disagree. My husband dragged her to a driver's ed class last night because I told him I'd had enough. Any thoughts?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:34 AM on Apr. 22, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:00 AM on Apr. 22, 2011
I think you can feel any way you want... BUT DONT LET HER SEE.
She is just being a bratty teen (no offense, they all try this) trying every tactic to see which one will work. Dont let her see which one is getting to you... be strong.
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