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Gift etiquette question

Hypothetical: Susie has 2 kids whose birthdays are in the same month. She has 2 birthday parties. Her friend, Janet, attends both birthday parties and brings a gift to each party. A few months later, Janet has a birthday party for her child, but Susie cannot attend. Should Susie send a gift later or not worry about sending a gift since she is not attending the party?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:24 AM on Apr. 22, 2011 in Holidays

Answers (12)
  • I would think it would be a good idea to try to send the gift before the party.
    febmom007

    Answer by febmom007 at 8:25 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • If she's accepting a gift (especially 2 gifts and not one...not that the qty matters) but YES, she needs to give a gift even if not attending a party.
    ItsJustMe1017

    Answer by ItsJustMe1017 at 8:28 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • Yes, Susie should send a gift.
    Syphon

    Answer by Syphon at 8:29 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • It would depend on if she wanted to maintain her friendship with Janet.
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 8:34 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • While it would be nice if Susie sent a gift, it is not a requirement as she is not attending the party. It makes me feel sad to think that some people feel party attendence and gift giving is a requirement of friendship.
    layh41407

    Answer by layh41407 at 8:35 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • it would be really nice if Susie sent a gift. But if she doesnt Janet shouldnt get to upset about it & try to let it go. When you give a gift you shouldnt expect something in return- even if she had 5 kids..

    For example Ive seen this (lol): Jill has 2 kids close in age/close bdays. Cindy always buys the 2 kids really nice expensive gifts. But when Cindys 1 child has a bday Jill only spends a little on the 1 child. Should Cindy get mad Jills kids got 3x more expensive gifts than her own child? Nope. Cindy buys the kids nice gifts because she can afford it & because she chooses to do that. she doesnt do it so she can expect her child will get "better" gifts.
    MommaTasha1003

    Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 8:39 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • Definitely send a gift. And a nice one. One worth the same as the 2 she got.
    mompam

    Answer by mompam at 8:44 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • I feel it's only polite to send a gift if her children received them.
    laird6372

    Answer by laird6372 at 8:48 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • I agree Susie should send a gift. I disagree that the gift has to be of EQUAL value. Buy what you can AFFORD.


     

    KairisMama

    Answer by KairisMama at 9:10 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

  • I think Susie should send the gift. But, if she didn't i would not make a fuss over it.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:14 AM on Apr. 22, 2011

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