My son has ADHD/ODD(oppositional defiant disorder), he is medicated, I left his dad when he was two and he does know him. I am have been with SO for 8 yrs and have a 2.5 yr old with him. Last year I sent my son (he'll be 13 in 2 mo) to live with his father because he was getting suspended, calling me a bitch & just not obeying the rules- step dad works in alaska most of the time so I dont have any help or back up-because our whole family lives in a different state. I ended up having to bring my son home because his father started staying out all night, not going to work and presumably doing drugs- he has not called my son for 8 mo. (cont)Answer Question
The one thing a child with this disorder needs is family stability and consistent parenting. Unfortunately, his dad was not able to give that to him. Also, it seems like he takes full advantage of you. This type of disorder because he also has ODD can be very hard to get a handle on. There are good days but a lot of bad days and you never really know what causes them. It seems you have been left to face a Giant by yourself without the weapons (knowledge) needed to win the battle. I would encourage you (if you have not already) to seek counseling for yourself and possible parenting classes (on this type of disorder).
Answer by mom4ever76 at 9:38 AM on Dec. 3, 2008