I can't go to the mailbox because he has gotten so many speeding tix and is about to lose his license and I'm sick of being "surprised" by the ticket envelopes from court.
I can't do laundry because I'm afraid a lighter or rolling papers will fall out from all the times he's lied to me about smoking pot.
I'm afraid to look at his phone because of all the times I've seen texts and emails about drugs that he was lying about doing.
I'm afraid (and refuse) to enter his car because I'm afraid it'll smell like pot.
I absolutely cannot look at out on-line bank statement for fear of his overspending and taking out cash for pot. I am physically unable to do this because of anxiety.
All these basic activities he's taken away from me. I'm a nervous Xanax popping mess! He claims he has changed and will not lie. He is in therapy for his lying but he's only been going a couple of months.
I have a horrible time trusting him but he thinks I should be instantly cured of my mistrust, AFTER 8 years of lies!!!, just because he's in therapy!!!
Joint therapy is too expensive, please don't suggest it. What do I do? When do I trust?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:38 PM on Apr. 22, 2011 in Relationships
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