My husband and I were dating for 3 years before we got married and our daughter came along. He worked the majority of the time while I was pregnant, but got terminated from his job in my last trimester of my pregnancy. Afterwards, he didn't work and still isn't working. Since he didn't work and we agreed for me to stay at home with our daughter, we got evicted from our home. He somehow kept it from me that he was not paying the rent. It was easy for him to just say he was able to pay for the rent with his military veteran housing allowance which is about $800 per month. I broke up with him and he kept begging for me to be back with him, but I kept telling him that I didn't want to be with him at that time. I also tried dating other men. Since, I broke up with him and tried dating other men, he got angry and tried to retaliate by having sex with other women and by trying to have sex with one of my acquaintances. On top of that, he rarely seen his daughter to hurt me. Eventually, he stopped being angry towards me and begged me again to be back with him. I told him yes, because I felt hurt that my family has been broken up. I have flaws myself, such a being a messy housekeeper and unorganized person. I have also shown interest in other men before out daughter came along. So I am wondering if I am being too hard on him. He does do things for his daughter and he did pay the eviction off so we can move into better places, but I am still angry towards him for embarrassing me and having my family down-talk me, because my husband made us get evicted. I am also angry about him having sex with other women and trying to have sex with one of my acquaintances while we were broken up a short period of time. Should I stop holding a grudge and make it work with my husband or just leave and get a divorce?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:25 PM on Apr. 22, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by amberpaiz at 2:27 PM on Apr. 22, 2011
Answer by momindiana at 2:31 PM on Apr. 22, 2011
Answer by marine_wife0520 at 2:35 PM on Apr. 22, 2011
Why hold a grudge against him for having sex with other women when you yourself were dating other men. That's silly. Whether you had sex with them or not, you were still pursuing other men just like he was other women. If you want to start over, you have to start with a clean slate. If you can't do that, then don't even start the process of getting back together, just tell him flat out that you can't do it. The eviction that is both of your responsibilty, if you knew he wasn't working or bringing in any money, then you should have stepped up and got a job. Since he wasn't working he could have been the stay at home parent. So, let that one go as well if you want to get back together. Just like the thing with the other women, if you can't let it go, then don't get bacck together.
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