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Does anyone else have a loving and dysfunctional relationship with their SO/DH?

To anyone who doesn't know us they'd probably think my DH and I can't stand each other. We playfully bicker and call each other names. We'll purposely irritate each other. We'll sometimes say "I hate you" but always with a smirk and we both know it really means "I love you but you're fucking annoying me". I tell him all the time I only married him for his money, which he knows isn't true. I tell him his family loves me more than they love him, he tells me the same about my family. It's dysfunctional I know but we rarely have real fights and we're always doing romantic things as well, we're affectionate and tell each other "I Love You" about a dozen times a day. By the way the dysfunctional side we hide when the kids are around, we figured we'll wait until they're old enough to understand that we don't mean the things we say. I honestly think we are this way because my parents and his parents are the same way, hopelessly in love but playful in a very screwed up way.

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:48 AM on Apr. 24, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I sure do, no one understands us and that's what makes the relationship so special. There is no cookie cutter way to have a relationship, it's whatever works for you :)

    Answer by GomezMami2908 at 12:50 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • omg yes.. we don't act like that all the time but there are phases. it sure makes for some hot nude and crude action though...

    Answer by gwen20 at 12:52 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • Lol...hey whatever works for you mama! =) I think that anyone on the outside looking in would probably think that DH is "running things" and a bunch of other stuff...but our relationship works for us and thats all that matters =)

    Answer by Lucky209 at 12:54 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • You totally just described mine and hub's relationship, LOL!

    Answer by hopeandglory53 at 2:38 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • That's not dysfunctional. Dysfunctional is when the family can't function properly as a result. Hence, "dysfunctional". That's just teasing and fun. My hubby and I joke like this too. I'll say, "Go make me a sammich, Bitch" and things like that. He'll tell me to get a fucking job first. It's fun. And no, we don't really fight much, and when we do, we're very respectful when we argue.

    Answer by Saya at 7:09 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • We do that too. We're always SO sarcastic with each other. But, we always crack up too....we laugh a lot...all the time, which i think is so important for keeping a happy marriage!

    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:32 AM on Apr. 24, 2011

  • you just described me and my hubby. however at a xmas party a couple yrs ago the ppl we were around did not understand and they viewed it negatively. i now have to act accordingly at company functions because ppl felt we were having marital issues..ooops

    Answer by dramaMama407 at 2:30 PM on Apr. 24, 2011

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