Last night I was told by someone that I need to "suck it up and get over it" in regards to our house fire 3 mos. ago (today it's been 3 mos.). As if it's really that simple. I am thankful that that I survived the fire because if my husband hadn't come home I probably wouldn't be here (the fire went up the chimney and the worst room in the house was our bedroom). I am very thankful that he forgot his ear piece & turned around a block and a half from the house and came home. He was gone for MAYBE 3 min. and in that time our house went from being fine to being filled with gas. He tried the stove thinking that maybe he'd bumped it as he'd left and when it didn't light he realized there was a problem and yelled for me to get downstairs NOW (I was sleeping since it was 7a). As we were going down our driveway he noticed fire in our basement and screamed for me to get our neighbors out of their homes while he called 911. Sounds like a basic house fire and I guess one should just "snap out of it" 3 mos. later but it was more than a simple house fire. 23 buildings in our village caught fire starting at 6:30a. 9 of those were houses, 1 of those was a 4 unit apartment complex. There was a gas issue (pounds of gas put through the lines instead of ounces) and it caused furnaces to explode and catch fire. It made national news: here's a link to the story http://blog.cleveland.com/metro/2011/02/a_small_town_a_gas_surge_and_c.html & http://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/news/local_news/fairport-harbor-911-calls-depict-frantic-scene-of-gas-fires-explosion takes you to the 911 calls and my husband was the 6th caller. It was a traumatic day for all of us in the village.
I KNOW that we are the fortunate ones....we have great insurance and are actually over insured, everything will be replaced. Some (the renters) had NO insurance (though the gas company has worked with them) and some home owners were under insured. I KNOW that we are fortunate that while we lost 97% of our belongings 75% of our treasures were salvaged (because of where they were located). Some people lost EVERYTHING...the people in the apartment complex had nothing after the fire was put out as it was reduced to rubble. I know we are fortunate that no human lives were lost (we lost a dog and another family lost a cat). I know all this.
We're in a rental house until hours is rebuilt but we miss our home, the little blue house I lived in for 10 1/2 years and raised my 4 sons in. We miss our neighbors, our friends and just where we lived. We are in a rental house 20 min. from where we lived, we know no one, we aren't within walking distance of anything (in the village where our house is we had the beach, the library, 2 stores, a park and the post office within 2-6 blocks). There's nothing personal of ours here because we don't have anything personal (what was salvaged is still in a warehouse being cleaned). It's not our home, it's a temporary place to stay. We have 4 dogs who we know were traumatized by the fire & the move (by their actions), they don't understand what happened & we miss our dog who died as a result of smoke damage to his lungs (he was the only one we couldn't get out of the house because he was the only one not in a crate). We know that we are fortunate that we only lost 1 of our dogs and we are thankful that the 1 who bolted when she got out of the house was found (she even made the news: http://www.woio.com/global/video/flash/popupplayer.asp?ClipID1=5510412&h1=Dog+reunited+with+family&vt1=v&at1=News&d1=92167&LaunchPageAdTag=Search
We miss the little things you don't even realize are gone until you go looking for them and it's hard when you remember the special things that are gone...my husband's dad's Torah that was passed down through the family, photo albums, gifts from our sons when they were little (the things of theirs that they gave us before they could buy things and the special things they bought when they earned their own money), artwork by them, their 1st lost teeth, baby books, etc.. There are some things that are "just stuff" (appliances, furniture and clothes) and then there are other things that are memories in a box....the memories that you are brought back by objects.
It hurt to have someone tell me to suck it up and deal with it. I am sorry that the smell of wood burning fires bother my husband and I or that seeing fires in movies brings tears to my eyes. I am dealing better 3 mos. after than I was a month after and I am sure that in 3 more mos. things will be even better. But it takes TIME. Most people understand, I just wish everyone did!Answer Question
Answer by Brandi300 at 2:45 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
Answer by SWasson at 2:46 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
You may never fully get over the loss. BUT perhaps you are talking about it more than that person (rude person) can handle. If you find that you need to talk about it all the time maybe finding a professional to help you might be the key.
There is no set time to "get over" things... as long as you are not stagnate. You must still move forward and function in life. And if you are still living life than what you feel is what you feel... it is how you act that is important.
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