Me and my ex were together for a year 1/2...we were engaged but the last three months of the relationship i really got to where i couldnt stand to come home, i hated to kiss him touch him, hug him, even sleep in the same bed as him. I felt no urge to even want to take the time to go out of my way to kiss him bye in the morning. I tried to go out with my family and friends because I thought that maybe i was stuck in a rut and was just depressed or something. I really was trying to work it out....I ended it though after i found out he was smoking pot...i gave him one chance to prove to me that he would stop and i told him if he didnt i was leaving because nobody is worth risking getting my daughter taken away from me. He said that he stopped but came home smelling like it so i went through his phone and found text messages saying that he had picked some up and had smoked, so i ended it. Its been 5 months since then and he constantly texts me or my mom asking how my daughter is and when he can see her and i told him to stop texting my mom because she isnt his family and he has no right to text her to find out my business...(he had texted my mom before asking who was watching my daughter one night because i told him it was none of his business and he didnt have a right to know) my daughter is 4 years old and he tells me that i should let my daughter decide if she wants to see him or not and i told him that hes irresponsible, shes not old enough to decide whats best for her and hes not going to see her because he cant grow up and hes not her dad. he told me that hes not going to quit talking to my mom and hell never give up trying to see my daughter....im getting very angry and im really starting to regret even dating him....im currently dating someone else and i feel that on top of his irresponsibility, letting her continue to see him will only confuse her in the long run, especially if my bf and me work out....plus i feel like it will cause problems with me and my bf or future relationships because he isnt her dad and me n him were never married so he isnt even her stepfather....i feel like ive tried everything in the book and he wont quit....what do i say to him and what are your thoughts on the situation?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:12 PM on Apr. 24, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by rhonda111787 at 10:18 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
Answer by JackieGirl007 at 10:19 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
At 4 years old no. If you had said she was 8 or 9 maybe let her make the call but no at 4 years old I would not let him see her especially giventhe drug history. Even at an older age he would have to have supervised visits where you knew he was not exposing the child to it.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 10:32 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
Answer by KayGia0704 at 10:50 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
Answer by MyMyOhMy at 11:34 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
Answer by luv69 at 12:01 AM on Apr. 25, 2011
Answer by rhonda111787 at 12:34 AM on Apr. 25, 2011
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