ok... My ex and I were very very close friends. We dated for almost 2 years and became very close. I broke it off with him and it has been 2 years since we have been split. I am now married and have a daughter with my husband. The other night, i had a dream about my ex. I had a dream that we went to the store together just shopping around and hanging out. Laughing, having a good time. Nothing inappropriate, like kissing or anything like that. Now since that dream, ((we live in the same town)) everytime i drive down the road i look as if im lookin to see if he is around. I feel like its wrong. I almost want to call or text him just to say hi. I know my husband wouldnt be happy with that, that is why i don't. But i still care about him..he was my best friend for the longest time. is this wrong?? I feel like im suppose to hate him...like i HAVE to hate him. I don't at all.
A part of me wants to see him and give him the biggest hug. I would love to see him again... like i said, we were VERY close friends. He was ALL i had at one point so i confided in him for the longest time so we developed a very unique close relationship. I can honestly say i would never want to be with him, i lost feelings for him a long time before my husband and i met. I would never cheat on my husband. I really wish the world wouldnt be so black and white. It seems like your supposed to completely act like you dont give a shit about ppl who you once cared about so much. Unlike most ppl, i dont try to lie to myself and pretend to hate ppl in my past just because they are in my past.
My husband is waaaay more important to me obviously..but i wish i could just see how he is doing every now and then without my husband thinking something is going on between us. Im a very independent person...and like the free will of doing what i wanna do..sounds selfish..but im not living under "rules" anymore. Im my own person now. And i feel like if i want it to be ok to still care for him as a person and friend, then i should be able to. I told my husband that once his ex got over their relationship from the past, then i wouldnt mind them being friends, but she was calling saying she missed him and all that jazz so i was like...oh no.. not till she gets over herself. But i wouldnt mind him saying hi to her everynow and then either..
what do you think?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:40 PM on Apr. 24, 2011 in Relationships
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