this may or not make too much sence to everyone but here goes nothing ....
I am 21. My son is turing 5 in june. I am a single mother...just divorced not to long ago. In about two months i will be graduating from beauty school =) Although i love doing hair, it isnt all i would like to study. I would like to go to school for Bakery and Pastery cheif. I found this amazing school about 4 hours away from home. Meaning my son and i would have to pack up and move by the end of this summer. Being a single mom who collects no child support i got a very good pell grant and will be able to get housing. so far everything sounds great. the school is amazing and i think it would be a very good chance for my son and i to start over.
here is my problem, does anyone think that this is being selfish or just plain crazy?
Here are some pros and cons about this life changing choice =(
-my son and i would be able to be on our own ( we are currently livin with my mother again)
-by taking this opp it might change our lives for the better. we dont have it bad or anything but it would give us independance that we need
-the school and area is great. we both have visited and both love it there
-i dont know if you will concider this a reason or not but i want to do this to set the example to my son of being a hard worker, doing many things with your life and taking chances. i want him to learn that nothing will come to you, you want something you need to go out and DO IT not just hope for it to fall into place
-selfish reason----because damnit, i want to! =)
- He will be going away from allll the family he has which he is VERY close to everyone. sees family at least 3 days out of the week every week since i could remember
-He will be downsizing his living arrangments. Momma isnt going to be able to give him as big of a house as he has now with me living wth my mom
-He wont see his father anymore
-I will be taking him away from everyone and everything he knows
-i will also be leaving all of my friends here
-He wont be able to go to the same school or play with his same friends
-He has had alot of changes in his life, so far he has never acted neg about any of them but what if this is the first and he hates it and acts up or gets upset... misses life now
there are alot more but i cant use upp this whooole page or no one will keep reading =)
ANY ADVICE is great i really need it
OH and another con
I live with my mom who is not the most healthy lady our there, if something were to happen to her she would be alone =( All alone in this house....and she WOULD give me the guilt trip, shit! she already has and i just told her that i had gotten some info on schools!
Also if something were to happen to me or jay i would know NO ONE out there and have no where to turn. ahhh this is so hard,
i need some advice ladies =(
sorry if this is under the wrong category lol i didnt see one that was labled " because im losing my mind" =)
Answer by Xtina0828 at 11:49 PM on Apr. 24, 2011
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