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Can you be in a relationship with someone but know that you really want to be with someone else...but you dont leave that relationship? And you let the other person know how you truly feel and you want them back but you want to work on a friendship first and grow...but you honestly know that they are the one you want to be with one day. But you still stay in the relationship your in for now?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:57 AM on Dec. 3, 2008 in Relationships

Answers (12)
  • NO!! That is like two lives and leading both on!! Make a choice!!

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:02 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • No you can't have your cake and eat it too.

    Answer by sammiesmom2000 at 11:03 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • um no

    Answer by emtmommyamanda at 11:06 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • In doing this you are only using the person you are staying with now. That is unfair to that person and cruel. If you want someone else then leave your current relationship so that person can get on with his/her life without being taken for granted. If you aren't wanting to leave this person then I think you should spend more time figuring out why that is. If you truly don't want to leave this person there must be a reason and considering you are already in a relationship with THIS person, that is what you should spend your time working on. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. It just looks like it because you've been treading on this grass for too long.

    Answer by sillyt at 11:09 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • You are hedging your bets...that's not fair to ANYONE. Neither guy will get a true chance with you while the other is in your life...and you aren't being fair to yourself either. If you are staying in a relationship for safety or not to be alone, that's the wrong honest with him and yourself. Wishing you luck with your choice.

    Answer by companygoddess at 11:13 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • That's keep all your options open taking no risk.

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 11:15 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • No.

    Answer by runawaybunny at 11:25 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • It sounds like u need 2 be by urself for a while and figure out where u really want to be. U sound confused and like u are using ur current man as a rebound. U just need to take time to urself and get ur mind right. Don't miss out or mess up a good thing because you are lusting for someone else who might not be the one for u. Life is all about taking chances, making mistakes, learning and growing. U have to be the one willing to take those risks and just hope that everything works out. Remember that everything happens for a reason. Don't take someone else through drama or pain if u know u don't want them. Just take a break and think.

    Answer by ms.busybody at 11:36 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • Can you? Sure. Should you? No way. It's not fair to either of them or to yourself.

    Answer by riotgrrl at 11:51 AM on Dec. 3, 2008

  • I agree with the above posters.

    Answer by richgirljj at 12:03 PM on Dec. 3, 2008

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