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Is this appropriate?

My 12.6 yo dd has a boyfriend. He is the same age. They don't go anywhere together just talk at school but for Easter she gave him his favorite candy. She spent a whole $3 of her money and he had talked to others about getting her something but didn't. She gave him his gift and he said he couldn't find her favorite candy, but it's not uncommon it's everywhere in stores. Now, I'm thinking she was being FORWARD giving him something before he gave her something. She felt bad. What is the etiquite of this at this young age?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:42 AM on Apr. 25, 2011 in General Parenting

Answers (10)
  • lesson learned, i'd say.

    Answer by dullscissors at 11:44 AM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • They are 12 and she gave him some candy and he didn't give her any. I don't see what the big deal is, did she buy is expecting something from him. I say she shouldn't feel bad at all!! Just enjoy the pleasure of giving.

    Answer by choco_mom at 11:46 AM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • Did they decide together to exchange gifts?

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:47 AM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • Manner of what a q2 yr old should give her boyfriend? I have no idea. My 14 year old isn't allowed to have a boyfriend.

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 11:50 AM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • awww im so not ready for that!! my dds are 6 and 3 i would have to lock their dad up haha. I think guys should give the gifts first. I want my daughter to be treated like a princess. But imnot sure i can not wait to see what people think. Im a romantic so i think a girl should be wooed not a girl woo a guy.


    Answer by whitenena at 11:50 AM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • Learning about men early, eh? Tell he it won't be the last time it happens!

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • If she is getting bummed about it, maybe she is (at least feeling) a little more serious about him than you think.
    My ds, 12 also, doesn't give gifts because "boy's are dumb and don't think about getting me anything" lol.


    Answer by Amomand4kids at 12:16 PM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • its a lesson learned about men.. a guy not totally into them wont put in the effort... so its smart to move on from there.. a guy into her enough would have gotten a few of her fave candies.. or made her a card or put in some effort.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:28 PM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • I dont see any thing wrong with them talking because they are doing it any ways at school with out us around. I have the same thing but mine is a boy 12 and has this girl he says is his girl friend. They talk on the phone he did give her candy for Valentines thats it. I think she shouldnt have given him any thing unless he did first or at all. Look what happen. We know guys are **** soo. I dont know every one is different when they like some one. I think she should just not show it to much so she wont get hurt. Like when I let my son buy the candy he was picking out what he wanted and there was other grown men getting candy and and flowers my son says oh can I buy her the stuff animal and flowers I told him no she isn't your wife come lets go now. This one guy was looking at me funny. So I dont know guys and girls are different I think she should just not worry about again look what he said he couldnt find what she liked yea

    Answer by butterflies78 at 12:47 PM on Apr. 25, 2011

  • 12 yr. old boys are not as outgoing as girls of the same age. He probably got nervous about giving her a gift. I don't think it is that big of deal.

    Answer by CometGirl at 7:56 PM on Apr. 25, 2011

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