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My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and have a 1 yr old son together. He is in the military as well. A few days ago he said he doesn't want to be with me anymore. He says he loves and cares for me but isn't in love with me anymore and we have lost that connection. He thinks of me more as a friend now. I want to try counseling and work on our relationship because I know in my heart it could work and I don't want to end things and not at least give it a try. He says it doesn't feel right to try and that he doesn't think he is the guy for me. Any questions ask as of why he doesn't want to try or anything to do with his train of thought about this decision, the answer is "I DON'T KNOW". I didn't do anything at all to make such a brash decision and this totally came out of left field. We have our arguments like any couple but they are never too serious, more just little things and we are best friends and get along really well and have a lot of the same interests. He has done this before when he was deployed (I was pregnant with our son) and he did the same thing, same words, everything to the point for the most part. I got fed up with it and basically said I don't care anymore do whatever, my main priority is me and my son now. and he did a total 180. Now he says he only did that now because when he saw our son he only was thinking of him and nothing else. After that point NOTHING has came up until now, the first time he is away from home since he returned from deployment. (he is in training) I really don't know how to wrap my mind around the situation. I think it is in part to being around guys who are unattached, he desires that lifestyle again (we are still young) to do whatever he wants. I really don't know... He says he has counseling set up but seems so reluctant to work on the relationship.. when I ask if he will try he says his favorite response "I don't know". He also doesn't want to live at home when he gets back. How should I react to this? and does anyone have any idea what may be going on with him?Answer Question
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