my child's father has come back after 6 yrs. she's soon to be 7 in a few months. he's never been here for her. he thinks i'm waay too lenient and that she's disrespectful toward's other's. he asked her for a hug last week, this twice after seeing her since she was born, she refused and i'm getting all kinds of "you don't teach her manners... she doesn't know how to act... he's completly making me feel horrible about the way i've raised her. she's a child. she's not used to him yet. i've explained that to him. she can't be forced to be used to him after all this time in just a few weeks. he says it doesnt matter and still demands respect from her. i don't know what to do or say. I dont think it's fair after all this time to come back and demand i be a better parent. he refuses to speak w/ her after this past incident until he's ready to because she's sooo disrespectful.
Update: He has no visitation rights, just came back about 3 weeks ago.. just hung up on me while i'm talking w/ her. tells me i dont teach her any manners. just wanted to cry on the phone. he's NEVER been here at all! now after all this time, she's supposed to be comfortable? i keep telling him, she's only 6, he's response is "you baby her too much, she know's what she's doing". He actually ended up leaving that day after she refused a hug after asking three times. i asked him well would you give your father a hug after all this time after not seeing him? he's response was "yes, that's my father regardless and he deserves respect".
Update,Update: just got off the phone after a while texting back and forth: he feels she's gonna drive him back to drinking and smoking weed since sh'es been soo disrespectful after 2 visits. Him being around her is not healthy for him, he's spoken with his parent's who agree. mind you they have never met their grandchild. he doesnt like being disrespected or treated in a certain way. he gave her two weeks to change her attitude and she didnt. he's had enough. he can't talk sense into me. i only care about her feelings and i'm always taking up for her. i dont see his side. he's done being around her. i told him she asked in daycare why he never picked her up he replied "cuz other kids are not disrespectful" wth? he says he gave her respect. she needs to respect him. I'm too busy defending her "lil dumb azz". i'm never going to see his point. he's done with the situation after three weeks. all his anger is her. and she's driving him to drink again he's leaving this city and for me to have a good life. life aint fair, her treating him like that aint fair. he's done being around her. she's not willing to change and he's done. she treats him a certain way that makes him not want to be around her.
this whole conversation was crazy! and soo just wow.Answer Question
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