My 8 yr old son has serious issues regarding authority, but just here at home. I met the man I am with 3 yrs ago, and my son does not like the idea of anybody being the man of the house. His father was incarcerated last year, and he has been taking that pretty hard. My boyfriend has tried, but to no avail, to reach him and be his friend & father figure, but he keeps on pushing him away. He told me that he is not going to try anymore. My other 2 sons look up to my boyfriend, just not my oldest. He lashes out at me and his brother quite a bit. His biggest problem, is that whenever he does not get whatever it is he seems to want...he screams. Loud. Loud enough to have us kicked out of our old apartment complex. Loud enough to have the police out here on 3 occasions inside of 1 month. He has been to doctors, who claim he has a type of Bi-Polar Disorder. He is taking meds, but they have absolutely no effect. I told his doctor, and he said there was nothing left that he could do. Which I don't believe of course. He does not act up anywhere but home. He loves to smart off to everyone, but especially me. Like I've done something wrong. We have tried everything. My boyfriend is on the verge of leaving because of him. He does not want too though. So, does anybody know of anything I can do? Another thing, is that whenever my b/f and I hug or kiss, he starts screaming. It is evident that he does not want us together. Thanks in advance!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:24 PM on Apr. 25, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
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Answer by TexasMama2Boys at 8:35 PM on Apr. 25, 2011
I will be devils advocate your son has already lost you think he is doing this for attention and yes you do deserve to be happy but he is at the stage where whatever reason he started this now he knows he has lost kids are smart. He feels you are never going to leave your bf he knows. the structure he once had is over but I can say this because I did it to and the pain I was not going to be able to change it kept me bitter and angry. He is trapped in his own anger and the little blows he can give you and the pain he feels are going to have to be discussed. I hate to say this you are what boils down to a sometimes friend . Therapy is needed to release the grief before it becomes hatred.
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:09 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
His father is the one he believes to be his only ally no matter how long your BF has been there he is the enemy the cause of this even if he had nothing to do with it. His reasoning will be he came about the same time this structure or this family fell. He needs other kids in a group a support group that is what helped me I was still bitter but I talked about it and talking to others might help him. It sounds strange but it can help.
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:17 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
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