We've tried counseling, I've tried talking to DH....
I just want to walk away. I've been unhappy for the longest time, and I don't cry when I think about it. I mean, it sucks. Who honestly wants to say "I'm divorced".
There are so many things that I just don't want to patch up. He's abusive...mentally, verbally - (use to be physically). He's so mean to our DD. He's horrible towards me. I've ask for a divorce, and the only thing I get is "til death do us part". I also get all kinds of mean things said to me...like, when he yells at our DD he'll say "well you married me, you should have thought about all that when you took your vows"...ect.
Does he not think I won't divorce him? Just because we took vows, obviously, it doesn't mean crock to him. He plays mind games, not only with me, but our 2 yo DD.
He will pick on her...enough to piss her off, then when she starts screaming at him. He'll start with the discipline. Yelling, screaming, spanking...I play referee, constantly. Everything is always my fault, or our DD's.
I'm ready to find someone else, someone that will appreciate me and my daughter. Actually, spend time with her. I want someone who will love me and her.
I'm so unhappy. I know I'm whining. However, I do have a job interview on Thursday...please pray for me to get this job. If I get it, it's God's way of saying "leave". (as crazy as that sounds.)
Will update on Thursday!
Answer by tracylynnr31767 at 3:21 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
After reading the first couple lines, I was thinking, "WHAT is she waiting for?" I understand you don't want the divorce label, but you didn't marry knowing his abuse was part of the package! Now your poor daughter has to put up with his crap! Believe me, a person like him will change the person "she was meant to be" and I can see that's not what you want. I hope you get that job, but if by chance you don't , do whatever it takes to free yourself ! Hang in there mom!
Answer by anichols1 at 6:17 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by MizLee at 9:54 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
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Answer by MyMyOhMy at 12:34 AM on Apr. 27, 2011
Next question overall
How do I dicipline my son without getting to the point where I get really mad?