So my fiancee and I of 2 years just called it quits. Neither of us did anything wrong, we just mutually decided that our hearts weren't in it anymore. The problem is that this is the only father figure that my daughter has any memories of and calls him daddy. He lives in South Africa so there is no way she will be able to continue to see him. She tells me constantly that she misses him and it's going to break my heart to have to tell her that that's not daddy anymore. She's only 3 so I know she'll forget in time but not anytime soon. She can remember things from a year ago that I forgot all together. How can I explain to her that she's not going to see him anymore and that she needs to stop calling him daddy?Answer Question
Answer by Nicoles2LilRams at 7:13 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by loudnproud87 at 7:18 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
If you really want her to forget, now is the time. Most kids really only remember stuff like this at about age 5. Just tell her he had to go away and you know she misses him but it's ok. Maybe get her a pet to distract her from the affection she was getting from him. Sorry I'm not much help on this one.
Answer by darter at 7:23 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
I wouldn't tell her to stop calling him Daddy, that's who he is to her right now. I'd ask him to still communicate with her for awhile, hopefully he won't completely cut himself out of her life all at once, he should be gradualabout it. Kids do remember things at this age, especially if it's traumatic so I think the gradual approach is better.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:34 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by meooma at 9:57 AM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by alligurl186 at 12:57 PM on Apr. 26, 2011