I have a certain Internet friend I've been chatting with and talking to on the phone for over 10 years now, but I have come to the conclusion that she's really bad for me and I don't want to talk to her anymore. I could get into the details here, but let's say that she insults me constantly and is very condescending to me. She has psychiatric problems that are getting worse despite treatment, and she is one of those people who projects her own problems onto other people-- if she's too anxious to go out in public, she insists that I also must be the same and that I am in denial if I say otherwise, even though it isn't remotely true about me. (For goodness' sake, on top of all the church and school functions I go to, I go hang out at coffee shops to write and just talk to other people!)
Can I just stop taking her calls and answering her emails, or should I tell her straight up that I just don't want to be friends with her anymore? I've seen her plot rather nasty schemes against other people who have left her behind, like calling CPS on people for no reason other than to cause them problems, but when other people stop taking her phone calls (and she calls A LOT), she calls me and goes into a paranoid rant about what they must be plotting against her, even though nothing ever actually happens. Basically, I don't want to hurt her, but we've never met in real life, and she's already seeing a psychiatrist, so I don't know that I can do anything more for her anyway... but she scares me.
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 1:13 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by BeachyBabe at 1:10 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by Graciesmom528 at 1:15 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
I like what Kim said. Titrate her off of you. When she writes to tell you that you are distant, just reply, "I am taking some time to refocus on my introspection and emotional wellness, and to reprioritize my relationship with my family. Sending peace." It will be hard for her to twist that into something negative. She does sound scary.
Answer by ImaginationMama at 1:24 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by HollyBoBolly at 1:38 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by ItsJustMe1017 at 1:08 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
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Answer by zoejains_momma at 1:08 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by Imogine at 1:15 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by BeachyBabe at 1:16 PM on Apr. 26, 2011