Our son, he's 14, in the eighth grade, is not doing well in school, and has no interest to do so. Since the 6th grade he seems to think school is for goofing off, and being lazy. He just made it through the 6th and 7 th grade with mostly C's, and D's in his core classes, and the same applies to the 8th grade. It's getting close to the end of the year, and he just doesn't seem to give a crap. He helps out at home, has a decent attitude, doesn't get to do anything , or go anywhere because of his grades. He doesn't do anything overly bad at school, mostly just not listening, or his mind wanders, or he's talking too much. So he's not hurting anyone, or being a bully, or talking bad to the teachers... That's why I don't get it, the all say he's such a nice kid, he just can't apply himself, and is lazy. No surprise really.. I don't know what to do. We have had the same home life, nothing weird, no moving around, it's a stable home. Has everything he needs, etc. He's not spoiled, doesn't get what he wants all the time, no cell phone, etc. We believe in earning fun things to do, like riding his dirtbike, playing with his traxxas etc... I'm at a loss. I plan to go up and sit in his science class, he doesn't know I'm going to, in hopes it will kick him in the arse, and maybe he will realize I'm not joking when I say he needs to get his crap together. I did it before and it helped for a little while... So who knows, it may not do anything. Anyone have any ideas? I would really appreciate any Moms that have gone through this. Thanks!
Asked by Anonymous at 3:41 PM on Apr. 26, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by MaryMW at 4:23 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
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Answer by gemgem at 3:48 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
It sounds like more is going on with your son than just being " Lazy " Part of it probably is a Stage he is going through but, it is Unusual for a kid to be Lazy in school, not pay attention, make bad grades & have no interest without some kind of Acting Out too- Has he ever been tested to see if he is ADDor a Learning Disability? if not, you might want to look into that b/c that's what it sounds like- when a child is having a Hard Time comprehending what is going on in class & they see everyone else catching on; it can be So Intimidating...... & may seem they are just Lazy or Not paying Attention but, the Truth is they feel Lost & feel like the teacher is talking in another Language- so, they Shut Down- i hope things get better for you & especially your son- Wishing you lots of luck!
Answer by daisyb at 3:56 PM on Apr. 26, 2011