So we're in the process of doing a step-parent adoption. However, my ex still owes several hundred dollars from medical bills that he has not paid yet. I figured it was the pediatricians responsibility to mail him, especially since I provided them with copies of our divorce decree stating he was responsible for 50% of that not covered by insurance.
However, the clock is really ticking. He has approximately 90 days left of any sort of rights to my daughter, and I want to make sure this gets paid.
Would it be right for me to write up how much he owes and give it to him directly? Or should I just leave it up to the pediatrician? Thing is, I am still getting bills in the mail marked as my balance, when it's really his balance that is passed due. NOTHING so far has been in his name, even though it's HIS debt. I am just concerned that this is effecting my credit score badly as well.
We're already paying for everything that's related to this adoption but those bills, and we simply cannot afford to pay them ourselves. He needs to do this. To keep the peace, I really wish we could because I am 100% sure he doesn't want to pay it. But our funds are tight already.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:05 PM on Apr. 26, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by desert_diva at 9:17 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
OP .No one has criticized you at all.Responders have only tried to offer you help.Proper response would be none or appreciation that people were offering you help.We are not the ones not paying the bill.Save your anger for the man you picked to father your child.
Answer by drfink at 11:09 AM on Apr. 27, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 7:03 PM on Apr. 27, 2011
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:16 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by esmith1984 at 9:18 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Can you call legal aid or if is there a law school near you? I have friends that have had opposite experiences though both thought the dad was 50% responsible.One the Dr. stopped billing the mom and the other the mom was responsible.It was all determined by what was signed about payment to the Dr. at the first visit.Apparently if someone accepts responsibility The Dr. has the right to bill and report that person.That friend had to get her lawyer involved to get paid back by the dad.If you talk to legal help have your divorce decree and the paperwork concerning payment from th Dr.office.Good luck.
Answer by drfink at 9:39 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by Keeely07 at 9:44 PM on Apr. 26, 2011
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 9:45 PM on Apr. 26, 2011