My 14 yr old son has autism and he has meltdowns. We have designated his room as his 'calm place' and when he has a meltdown he is to go to his room and start working at calming himself down. I have learned that when he is in meltdown-mode I need to leave him alone (and tell everyone else to leave him alone as well) and give him the time and space he needs to get himself under control. When he is calm again we talk about the meltdown and what could have caused it. If it was caused by something that we can control then we will make adjustments and change what we can to try to prevent the meltdown from happening again. My son is in counseling and that seems to have helped as well, the therapist has helped him to learn about anger, what can trigger it, and how to calm himself down. At school we have an IEP in place, and when he has a meltdown at school he knows he needs to go to Ms. B's room and calm down.
at 10:50 AM on Apr. 28, 2011