We are a young couple he's in the military and this is the first time he's had alot of money to do things he wants with but he spent $2500 on things he didn't need we have a 16 month old and we are going to be haveing a newborn in three weeks I've tried talking to him about his spending but he says he will get more I know he's earning it about I want to have money to get our kids stuff what should I do some ppl say that I should take money out of his account and put it in mine. Yes I should have a job and make my own money but he got all pissy he wants me to be a stay at home mommy. But if this keeps happening I'm almost thinking about leaveing.
Answer by 1countrygal at 8:57 PM on Dec. 3, 2008
What you two need to do is sit down and have a budget discussion. It's not his money, it's both of yours. You should go through and look at his post-tax income and all of the bills that are due each month. Subtract the bills from the post-tax income. Then figure out about how much you spend on recurrent expenses like groceries, household stuff, gas, dining out, etc. Subtract that as well. Then decide on a reasonable amount to put into savings each month. Then an amount to put into a retirement acct. Then with what's left over, decide on a reasonable amount that each of you can spend each month, guilt free. That way he can buy fun stuff but you're taking care of the important things first.
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