When I ask dd what she has been doing, or how something happened instead of telling me, explaining what happened she always says "I dont want to tell you"
Last night she fell in our bathroom (i thought she was just pottying) and she was crying & holding her head so i ask her what happened & she said "I dont wanna tell you"..
Today she walks up to me & I smell something.. so i ask her "what have you been eating?" ... she says " I dont want to tell you"..(it was chocolate, but idk how she got it)..
What can i do to encourage her to tell me stuff?!
It makes me upset/sad when she says that.. and as a mom its important she feel she can (and should) be honest/open with me.
She is 4.5yo by the way.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:36 PM on Apr. 28, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
My son also uses those same words... when he "thinks" I'll get really angry about his breaking some rule. I have told him that I need to know what his problem is - because I love him and want to help him learn. If he did do something that was not allowed, and then he got "hurt" - I remind him strongly - the reason that I gave him warnings and rules in the first place. It is only for his safety and health. It has worked out well so far to break him of the "secrecy habit". (Also my son is 6 - so he is able to understand his consequences better than when he was 4 1/2 .)
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Answer by momti at 1:34 AM on Apr. 29, 2011