My DD is 3 and has recelty began to mimic my DS melt-downs when she gets angry. She is sent to her room as he is and then flies off the handle just like him. Screaming things like ' I hate you, I hate my room, I hate the rocking horse...' then proceeds to throw things at her door... again just like her brother. Noe before you say 'why aren't you teaching your son not to do these things?' Well, I we are and have been for many years now! It is a slow process because he is hard to sooth and once he is in melt-down mode there isn't a lot you can do other than wait it out and have him clean up his mess and talk about it. Which is also what we are doing with DD. WE talk and ask her to clean it up. My question is how much do I put into this learned behavior? DO I stick with what I am doing or because she is 'typical' do I correct her more because she is capable of NOT acting this way by using communication than he is. I don;t want her to feel she being 'targeted' but at the same time I HAVE to hold them at different standards. This would be so much easier if he was younger than her... How do you explain to a 3 and half year old that your older brother has a different and slightly lower for the time being set of expectations...? How do I not build resentment while correcting her learned behaviors? Any advice or articles would be great.Answer Question
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 9:43 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by MexTexmom2 at 9:50 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
i think it time to chance your dd time out i use my hall as there nothing in my hall it very boring and there nothing there to throw lol pic a place in your house like this and send here there for 3 mins if she comes out put her back and restart the time . if she screams ignore her do not respond at all but if her 3 mins runs out and she still screaming just say you cant come out time out till your stop scream then go back to ignoring her . when she finely gets out of time out she must give you an apology . at 1st she try every trick and for the 1st week it will be hard work but she will soon see it dose not work. if she trys the why dose ds not have the same time out as me just tell her because your not ds and the is best for you lol
DD is 14 and on the spectrum. My twins are 6 and NT. I put my twins in time-out on a 'naughty step'. I supervise them and coach them to calm down. ASD meltdowns are different from NT tantrums. A tantrum is done for attention, and ASD meltdow is not. I found some interesting stuff on You Tube. Search Aspergers Tantrum on You Tube. Once you see the explanation of where the differences are, you will be able to treat them differently. You may want to use 1-2-3 Magic with the approach you take with your daughter.
From an early age, I explained to my sons that their sister's brain is wired differently from theirs - which is why our expectations are different and why we treat them differently.
Answer by JSD24 at 9:56 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 9:57 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
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