Please no bashing. I never thought in a million years that this would be me and my story.
My high school sweetheart and the man I have been with for 10 years, since I was 15 years old, left me when our youngest child was 2 and cut off all communication with both me AND our daughter.
After about 6 months, I decided to go on a date with someone who I ended up dating a few times over the next couple months. One Saturday night, we ended up having sex, and the next morning I woke up to an e-mail from my high school sweetheart saying he was so sorry, that I didn't deserve to be left with no explanation, that our daughter didn't deserve it, that he had not seen anyone else or been with anyone, that he wanted to come home, and at least talk to me and have the chance to apologize and see our daughter whether I took him back or not.
Well, long story short, we cried together and got back together, he moved back in, and on Monday we had sex.
I had been on the birth control pill, but found out I was pregnant that month. The person I had been dating said that he didn't want to be a father nor interfere with a good family for the baby, and stepped out of the picture.
My then boyfriend married me, and was with me through that pregnancy, birth, etc. The baby is no longer a baby. She is 3!
We have periodically talked about getting a DNA test done, and he says it is best that he never knows for sure. Part of me can understand that, and he is a wonderful father to both of our girls, but it makes me wonder whether that means he thinks he would treat our youngest differently or wouldn't want to be with us if she wasn't biologically his.
How would it make you feel? Would you push the issue? Would you be able to just never know?
Part of me doesn't think about it much day-to-day, but the other part of me doesn't want to NOT KNOW forever. I don't want the question to keep coming up. I just don't know what to do or what is right.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on Apr. 29, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by yesmaam at 11:48 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by Eisleysmommy27 at 11:48 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by MaryMW at 11:49 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Does he treat her any differently? I would let it go because in his heart she is his daughter. I think for him ignorance is bliss, it will probably break him if he finds out its not his. Plus it might cause him to treat her differently if he finds out its not his. So leave it he is happy with HIS two daughters..
Answer by booger14 at 11:49 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 11:50 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by yesmaam at 11:51 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by hopeandglory53 at 11:53 AM on Apr. 29, 2011
Answer by Dkhilly at 12:11 PM on Apr. 29, 2011