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Why do they say "speak now or forever hold your peace" in a wedding ceremony

It's not like someone in the guest is really gonna yell out I OBJECT!!! and make the groom and bride realize hey is this really a good idea...I mean really no matter what goes on the couple is going through it like it or not it is up to THEM.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:29 PM on Apr. 29, 2011 in Just for Fun

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  • It's a chance for the bride and groom too to say no before they commit lol But divorce is so easy these days, so the phrase really means nothing to a lot of people.

    Answer by BeachyBabe at 5:32 PM on Apr. 29, 2011

  • Guess that's why they didn't say it at mine. LOL And why people only invite other people to their weddings who they know won't yell OBJECT.

    Historically, it probably was a way for someone to(one of the witnesses perhaps) to say the wedding shouldn't happen because one person of the couple was already married or if they were related or something.

    Answer by keisha613 at 5:33 PM on Apr. 29, 2011

  • Ah, you haven't read lots of 18th and 19th century novels! This was the chance for someone to come in and say that either the bride or groom had been married before (and that marriage still legal) outside of the local area. In England they would publish the banns or make an announcement for three consecutive weeks before the wedding to let people know of the intention of the couple to marry. The "speak now" part was the last formal opportunity for someone to come forward and prove that one or the other of the couple was ineligible to marry. That's what happened in the novel "Jane Eyre" among many other period stories.

    Answer by jmpj8107 at 5:38 PM on Apr. 29, 2011

  • Its part of the traditional marriage vows is all. Back a long time ago women were married off like property. If they were promised to someone else then that person or someone they knew could come forward and say no they cant get married because shes supposed to marry this person instead.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:19 PM on Apr. 29, 2011

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