i want you ladies to be brutally honest, and yes i know that will be hard for you since you dont know me. back in 2008 i met my dd father (we will call him m) through a friend. this friend gave m my number and m called me. when we first got together i thought he was UGLY but stayed with him cause... well if you will be brutally honest so will i... i wanted sex. the sex with him wasnt great but it was all i was getting so i stayed. a few months later we were engaged cause i thought he was a really nice guy and i wanted a father for my 2 year old ds. in the end of nov 2008 we moved in together (i had to quit 2 jobs and move an hour away) i ended up with no friends and no family support so i depended on him for all of my companionship. i found out in dec that i was expecting again. at that time we decided together that i would wait to work until the new baby was like 3 months old even though we didnt have much of an income and were barely scraping by. over the next year m and i both held in a lot of anger and annoyences which resulted in big major blowout arguements where we would both yell and scream. i thought he spent to much time talking about how these other girls brought him lunch at work and wanted him to hang out with them while i wasnt around. he hated that i came on here and wouldnt leave the house and make new friends (i was super depressed.) he also didnt like that the house was always a mess. well one day i finally got so sick of him talking to these girls who were always around him that i told him to pick me or them (well at the time it was one) he picked me and stopped talking to the other girl but a few weeks later he was talking to another girl and the same thing happened. only this time he told me that he wasnt talking to her then i found his phone and saw that he had lied to me... so i let it go planning to talk with him the next day about it. well that night i heard him texting at 1 am... i went back to sleep and texted him from work the next day... i asked him if he was happy in our relationship. he didnt respond. a few hours later i sent him another text saying that if it was the other girl i wanted him to take his tax check and go. he flipped out and told me it was over. he picked our daughter up from daycare (she was 5 months at this time and primarily breastfed although she did take a bottle at daycare some days.) m hid her from me for 2 nights. i had to get a restraining order that said the child was supposed to stay with me in order for me to get her back. well here i am a year later and i wonder if i handled that the right way or if i should have waited til we were face to face before trying to figure out what all happened. the reason i didnt talk to him before work is that he had to be at work at 5 am and i wasnt even up yet. but know... i dont know... i feel saddened by everything that happened. i want to apologize but honestly dont know if i did anything wrong... i felt so conrtolled and belittled while i was with him. i was at home with the kids when i wasnt working. he didnt like that i didnt clean so i started to (only to have him stop) and i felt like i was doing what i could to keep us together but now im not so sure... so what do you think? did i do the right thing? oh and now he is with one of the girls so im wondering if anything happened between them while we were together...
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