Along with shopping for sippy cups and strollers, expectant parents may want to consider another task for their to-do list: honing their marriage skills.
Numerous studies have shown that a couples' satisfaction with their marriage takes a nose dive after the first child is born. Sleepless nights and fights over whose turn it is to change diapers can leach the fun out of a relationship.
Now, a growing number of mental-health professionals are advising couples to undergo pre-baby counseling to hash out marital minefields such as divvying up baby-related responsibilities, money issues and expectations for sex and social lives. A growing number of hospitals, midwives and doulas (birth coaches who provide physical and emotional support) are teaching relationship skills alongside childbirth education classes.
About two-thirds of couples see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child, according to data from the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, a nonprofit organization focused on strengthening families. Conflict increases and, with little time for adult conversation and sex, emotional distance can develop.
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Answer by m-avi at 7:24 PM on Apr. 29, 2011
I do agree that the 1st few months after my dd was born, was difficult. My dh I did tend to snap at each other much more during that time. I think it was because we were both so exhausted. But now she is 16 months old and everything is fine.
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Answer by hopeandglory53 at 8:56 PM on Apr. 29, 2011
My 1st child was a piece of cake i had a c section and was out of it for so dh bonded so much with our dd he loved getting up baths dipars feeding lol. now my second one i had postpartum and i was crazy but he was amazing again it made me love him a million times more. what we have a problem with is discipline they are 6 and 3 and hes a softy and they know hes a push over im mean mommy dont ask me ask daddy and it gets me upset.
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