Long Story. 6 years yrs ago my DH was told by a woman she was pregnant w/ his baby. She was manipulative, a liar, and cheated on him w/ 3 diff people. Naturally, he thought this was a ploy to get him to stay after he found out about her activities. He left her. We got together a few months later, and he told me about what had happened, but did not believe she was pregnant.
However, two days ago curiosity got the best of him and he looked her up on a social networking site, to see if there was any validity to her claim.
He did find out that there is a child, that looks VERY similar to him, he has talked to her briefly and she says the child is his. She states that she wants nothing from us, only to know if my husband loves the child.
My husband and I are however, in a world of confusion. We have 3 kids (2 of which are from my previous marriage)-
We both desperately want to do the right thing, but this would bring on confusion for all 4 children, and he thinks problems in our marriage. She is already trying to "win" him back, and she is with someone else.
They live approximately 10 hours away, in a different state- and we don't know how often we would be able to see the child, if at all.
She refuses to offer the childs DNA stating that it is not needed to prove paternity. When they were together, she had told him of 3 other kids she had that the state took away from her because she was deemed an unfit mom- but she claims to be a changed woman now through the child "they share".
We don't want to uproot the kid, or scare him- by tearing him away from the world he has known; but don't know if we can live with ourselves by just walking away from the situation.
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