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My friend told me her 17 year old daughter has a boyfriend and her dd told her she is still a virgin..

teen girlbut she gives her bf blow jobs and he eats her out. as a mom..would you want to know all of this info, know that they just do "other" stuff, or not know at all ?

 
gwen20

Asked by gwen20 at 3:21 PM on Apr. 30, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I have a 17 yo son & a 15 yo daughter. From the time they were old enough to understand, I've talked to them about sex. Safe sex. Unsafe sex. What constitutes sex. How much sex your friends brag that they're having (when they're really not). The difference between sex & love. Birth control. Abortion. And on & on.

    So when my son came to me last year to buy him condoms because he was out, I didn't say "omg I don't wanna know you're having sex". I gave some more safe sex lectures & left it at that.

    Your friend is actually in a good place with her daughter, if her daughter trusts her enough to be open & honest about what she's doing with her bf. It's a good time for your friend to talk to her about safety, sexual awareness, birth control, etc. While she may not like what her daughter's telling her, she should be proud that their relationship is so open and trusting.
    EgoTryptophan

    Answer by EgoTryptophan at 3:30 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • I guess I would be happy she felt safe sharing this information with me and proud she found another way to fulfill her needs without having intercourse.
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 3:23 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • Though i would not be sharing this info with my friends...
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 3:24 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • I would be glad to know that my child felt like they could discuss it with me. I would be a bit worried though, even if she isn't having sex, you can still transmite diseases by oral sex. I am so glad that my son is NOT at all interested in girls yet!
    Tawneekitn

    Answer by Tawneekitn at 3:44 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • I agree with but_mommie.
    SabrenaLeigh

    Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 3:25 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • hm.. Well I agree it would be good to know DD felt comfortable enough to share the information. Not sure how I'd react to actually knowing it though. I suppose I'd be grateful she was being careful.
    SalemWitchChild

    Answer by SalemWitchChild at 3:27 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • I wouldn't want to know the details. Just knowing they do other stuff is fine.
    Mel_in_PHX

    Answer by Mel_in_PHX at 3:30 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • OMG. It is all sex. It is just scary. Maybe she is technically a "virgin" but she is really too involved with this at her age. If I were her Mom,I would be having a stroke. Good lord. I am so glad my daughters are both over age 40 and married and that they din't want to be sexually involved with any guys until they were in their 20's. OMG.....
    minnesotanice

    Answer by minnesotanice at 3:34 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • I agree with the posters that say its a good thing for them to have that kind of relationship but I wouldnt be sharing it over coffee LOL
    SaturnsMom

    Answer by SaturnsMom at 4:39 PM on Apr. 30, 2011

  • No I wouldn't want to know the details. But I do think that behaviour is fore play and eventually they will get swept away and will have intercourse so she should be on the pill.
    onethentwins

    Answer by onethentwins at 5:38 PM on Apr. 30, 2011