Today after lots of crying and hardship...I went and picked up my husband who was out on the streets. We are looking into the possibility of working things through. (I found out he cheated on me last night and kicked him out...) So, now I feel like one of those "stupid" girls for even considering wanting him back bc you always tell yourself you will "never be like that" or "if he cheats, he's gone for good." .... Have any of you ever successfully worked things out after your SO cheated? Should I feel stupid for wanting to try? We have two kids, and I can't even imagine what it would put them through for him to be gone for good...
i don't think your stupid i can total understand the fact that's you would make shore you make the right decision for your and your kids . the answer is not all ways clear cut and there is no right or wrong . how ever you and your dh need to work out why he cheated in the 1st place then look at what can be dune to fix that . don't just take a simple answer sometimes there more than one reason. if you wont to fix the problems out for good yous two need to be 100% honest with each other on what the problems are. and its not gona be easy to hear some of what he has to say or what you have to say
also i tell him to go get checked to may shore he not got no std's
Answer by feralkitten at 6:19 PM on Apr. 30, 2011
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Answer by duwana at 6:29 PM on Apr. 30, 2011
All I will say is that if the person who cheated really wants to make it work (I mean REALLY wants it) then it can. And I would not give up hope that things will change. But if you want to be assured he hasn't gone back to his old ways he has to expect to have to prove himself through his actions. It IS worth the effort because you have two beautiful children & is IS possible you can have an even better relationship with him in the future. If you want to talk more about this you can message me. I have been through this but I choose not to put the details out there.
Answer by 805doll at 7:48 PM on Apr. 30, 2011
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Answer by PatriciaofMN at 9:42 PM on Apr. 30, 2011
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