I am currently working on an MA. My husband's highest level of formal education is a few courses at a VoTech. This shouldn't be a problem among mature adults. But, several of my respected professors when I was an undergraduate had cautionary tales to share about attending graduate school when my spouse hadn't valued college education in general. They said that a lot of graduate students aren't with the same SO they started with by the time they graduate. DH and I had a lot in common when we met at a job corps in '03, but in that time I've been upwardly mobile and he's been horizontally mobile, if that makes any sense. Don't get me wrong, he's worked his ass off at his job, before he opened his own company. But he doesn't see that I, too, have worked hard. Both physically (two jobs and walking everywhere when preggo with DD1) and mentally (taking 7-9 college courses at a time to complete a double major WITH a minor) outside of the home, not to mention all of the domestic duties that somehow defaulted to me no matter what else was going on. I would love for us to still be together when we're old and grey and somewhat cyborgish, but I worry that a rift grows each year as I attempt to better our stations in life through intense mental labor and he sees me as this lazy moochy person. I hope that my lack of sleep and hormones are making me overreact tonight/thismorning.
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I felt so proud of myself for accomplishing something that was hard and demanding. Only 10% of applicants to my program made it in, and I was one of them??!! I worked my butt off to finish school...going to school full time in a very difficult program, working almost full time to keep my teeny tiny apartment/school paid for while eating baked potatoes or PB&J every freakin' day (to this day I can't eat baked potatoes), and having my uneducated boyfriend pouting on the couch because I was studying rather than sitting on the couch watching TV with him. He was completely threatened that I would make more money than him when I graduated, and I was still in school! It got so old that I couldn't do anything BUT break up with him. (cont)
Answer by JawgaMom1 at 9:45 AM on May. 1, 2011
Thank God I outgrew him, though, or I wouldn't have my DH. We are both college educated and have similar visions for our life. He is amazing, hilarious, he gets me, and he is my best friend.
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