how much time would you give him to sit at home and enjoy being unemployed? would you (Sahms) expect that he help out with the kids and household stuff now that he is home all day, or would you continue to do it all yourself?
im asking because my husband is now going on over a month of being unemployed. it took 2 weeks for me to get him off his ass and go look. if it were me, and my family depended on me as the breadwinner, i would be out there everyday all day until i found something. am i being unrealistic here? now he has gotten better and searching daily, but it's hard in today's economy. he's even checked jobs like grocery stores and fast food places. i feel better that he's atleast trying.
as far as the rest of it goes though, i do expect him to help me out with parenting duties. however, he spends most of his day in his mancave with the door closed. i have talked to him numerous times about it and he says they can come in if they want to. but they don't want to sit in there and watch sports. so im still juggling a clean house and 3 happy kids under the age of 5. he can hide in there as much as he wants after 8pm, but until then i firmly believe he should be helping me out here or get a job. if i don't get to hide away from them all day then why should he? i understand people need breaks too.. but this is entirely different. he's okay about helping me with some chores, he doesn't do much but i appreciate the little he does and a lot of it i don't even have to ask. but this isolating himself from us all day is getting old!
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