I have been married for almost 7 years and we have 2 children together ( 5 and 3 ) .... Last year we found out that my husband has another child - a 9 year old daughter, who he never knew about.
The mom was with some other guy and when he left she then decided to THEN introduce her to her dad. We got a DNA test and he is the father and we have all been trying to make a good relationship but the mother just acts like a self rightous (sp) you-know-what.
SHE was the one who waited 9 years before letting him know of thise child, in fact she let another man raise her and let her call the other man daddy and let her have that connection with him ( he actually still wants something to do with her but the mom wont let him since he wont pay child support) ...
She gets mad that we do family things without her daughter, but then she gets mad if her daughter is around me and our kids. I know alot of moms get upset when their child spends time with the stepmom, but I am not going anywhere and I am the mother of her half-siblings, not to mention she has said she likes spending time with me...... I think she needs to get over it, I think it is HER fault for the way things are and she has nothing to complain about...
We instatnly started a relationship with her , I do not treat her badly when she is here, I actually think I treat her very well ( we talk, we watch movies, I help her with school work, I fix her hair, I let her help me cook, we went and got her and our younger kids pictures done together) ... But then the mom will find out I had the nerve to just take my kids to the park or zoo and throws a hissy about how we are being unfair...
Asked by Anonymous at 11:20 AM on May. 1, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by sweetpea1217 at 11:26 AM on May. 1, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:31 AM on May. 1, 2011 (hidden) + expand
Answer by emmyandlisa at 11:32 AM on May. 1, 2011
Your husband has built a family with you and your children. It would be unreasonable to think he would not have that connection anymore or that it would be put on a back burner because he suddenly has a surprise child that she has kept from him for nearly a decade. It sounds like this mom has no idea what she wants, other than maybe some child support since she won't allow the man who was the only dad this poor little girl knows to even see her since he won't pay for it.
Answer by scout_mom at 11:35 AM on May. 1, 2011
LOL....what a funny question.
Answer by minnesotanice at 11:36 AM on May. 1, 2011
Answer by BubbaLuva at 11:43 AM on May. 1, 2011
Answer by jenn4443 at 11:49 AM on May. 1, 2011
You are doing a great job with helping your Step-Daughter adjust to her New Family- her mom needs to Grow-Up! (Anonymous- your kidding right?- b/c op said A$$ she needs to Grow-Up & has No Class about her?- if you feel that way about this post; i can't wait to to see your response on some of the other questions that are asked! LOL! there isn't anything " Jerry Springer " about this question- WOW..)
Answer by daisyb at 11:51 AM on May. 1, 2011
Answer by frogdawg at 11:54 AM on May. 1, 2011