My grand daughter is 10.
When she was 2 1/2 she came to live with me while my daughter and her husband were deployed and while they completed special training for the military. At that time my mother lived next door and would let my grand daughter visit from time to time for a few minutes... long enough to stuff her with junk food, then she'd send her home.
My mother was rather proud to say that she will not baby sit her grandkids because she feels she has paid her dues by raising her own kids. That is until her siblings had grand children and they began to show them off and baby sit them. She never offered to watch any kid except my brothers and only because he was her favorite until she was confronted by her siblings for not being nice to her grand kids. Her siblings mean the world to her and their opinion is very important to her.
Now she tells my grand daughter that she took care of her when her parents were gone and not me.
My grand daughter asked me about that and I told her that I took care of her. She told me a few days later my mother told her I lie about things to make myself look better.
My grand daughter believe me because she can remember some of the time she was here and it was always with me and not my mother.
She's asked me why my mother lies and then calls me a liar.
I don't know what to tell her except the truth about my mother. Confronting my mother does not help, she will look me in the eye and claim what she says is the truth and that everyone else is a liar. She's famous for rewriting history.
Still, I want my grand daughter to understand that even a simple lie is unacceptable and sometimes even the people we love most tell lies.
I'm just at loss as to what to really do. What do I tell my grand daughter?
I would be honest in a loving nonjudgmental way. Explain that your mom is who she is, you can't change her. But you just need to take what she says with a grain of salt.
Answer by Lynette at 3:34 PM on May. 1, 2011
Answer by gracelessstar21 at 10:23 PM on May. 1, 2011
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Answer by SueAnd2 at 12:22 PM on May. 2, 2011