I've tried talking to her about it nicely but she just brushes it off and laughs at me but I CAN'T take it anymore and neither can her husband. He's actually abstained from sex for the last 7 months and is getting badgered my daughter. This sounds like such a surreal situation but it's true, she has 6 children now and SHE doesn't ever deal with them. My husband and I live next door to them and she is always sending them over (my son in law works al the hours god gives him). LITERALLY every day so she can bring friends over and just generally laze about. Yet she just keeps having them. She's only 26 now and she just keeps going on about getting pregnant all the time... yet she doesn't look after the ones she has. If I send the children back or refuse to let them in she literally leaves them in the yard (we have a shared yard). It's gotten so bad now that my son in law has started confiding in me about not knowing what to do. He's so unhappy with the situation and he doesn't know what else to do as when he talks to her about it she gets so angry she blows her top and screams and basically has a tantrum. He comes over crying regularly and the only time their house is properly clean is when he's home. He's having to do everything work and housekeep (litearlly do everything in that home).
My other children range from 10-24 and none of them have this sort of attitude so I'm not sure what stance to take or how to do this or how to advise my son in law to do this. In my mind she is not adequately caring for her children and she makes me sick, honestly. Strong words but true, my grandbabies are my priority and I'm at my wit's end.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:02 PM on May. 1, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
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Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 7:09 PM on May. 1, 2011
Okay time for a family intervention the gloves need to come off there is no more politeness when someone cannot see the forest for the tree's you and your husband and her husband need to sit her down and tell her what is to be done and how she can sign the agreement or get out. You tried explaining they need care now she has to be shown. Maybe she should also sign up for parenting classes and maybe some anger management classes this is hard to say but she has to hear it and now before someone sees it and calls CPS instead I think you know its past the polite phase its time for truth those kids need it.
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