My DH and I have serious issues in our marriage no doubt, and no doubt they go beyond the problems typical couples have. One of our biggest issues is sex...or the lack there of.
My DH really could care less whether we have sex once a week or once in 3 weeks. It's now been close to 3 months since we've been intimate in any way and he doesn't seem to care either way.
I don't like feeling rejected by him in this way and when ever I say anything to him about it, he tries to reassure me he still wants me and so on...but I'm always in a bad mood which is a turn off to him, therefore he isn't in the mood. I've tried to explain to him why I'm in a bad mood all the time, but it doesn't seem to make a difference.
The other night we got into an emotional argument about our relationship, our marriage, family and future together. Though his expression of emotion was subtle and mine, in true woman fashion was dramatic and extremely emotional we ended up becoming physically emotional. We didn't have sex but I did end up giving him oral (something, by the way I love doing). It was completely different this time however. We've been together nearly 10 years and never once has he recieved oral that way. Without being too too graphic, he ended up finishing in my mouth. Something tha has NEVER happened before, and as per him, something he didn't think he was capable of doing.
My DH, the not so sexual being he is initiated sex with me last night and as excited as I was by that, it just felt...different. He did things he has never done before (in 10 years) and it was just very unlike him. Even today he was "different" and way more sexual than usual.
I know it sounds like I'm complaining, but I'm really not. I'm just surprised I guess by all of this. I keep telling myself it's because he's excessively horny and just can't get enough. My only complaint is that things will go like this, hot and heavy for a few days and then go back to they way they were a few nights ago.
I don't know many 30 year old men that woud turn down sex as often as I'm handing it out. He doesn't have ED, I doubt he's having a physical affair (he's way too lazy and scheduled for that)...I don't know. I guess more than anything I just needed to talk it out.
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