I am thinking about moving from NY to CA to be closer to my family and friends. My SO (my daughter's father) wants to move there too (he doesn't live with us right now). I told him that if we were to move in together, he would have to go to anger management classes.
-He is easily frustrated and gets really loud (for example, not being able to find his keys or cell phone can cause him to get loud and angry)
-He gets easily frustrated with our daughter (she's only three...she's still learning)
My dad was physically and verbally abusive, and although my SO is none of these things, his "flare-ups" make me think of my dad. My siblings and I walked on egg shells when he was around because you never knew what his mood would be. It's that way sometimes with my SO. I don't want our daughter to go through what I went through-never feeling comfortable in her own home, fearful that her dad is going to flip out over something trivial.
Am I being unreasonable? I'm not objecting to him moving with us to the state-it would be best for our daughter if her dad was in her life daily. I'm just objecting to him living with us, UNLESS he agrees to take anger management classes.
Any feedback would be appreciated. SO is a good man and a good father, but he does have a nasty temper at times!
Asked by Anonymous at 6:26 PM on May. 2, 2011 in Relationships
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