i have been a single parent for 9 years. it has been only my son and me. i have been dating my b/f for a year now.. he knows that i am a package deal. he also has a son the same age, however, my son has behavioral issues that he feels may impact his son negatively. so what if ur bf said that if i cant curb my sons actions then it wasnt going to work out, he doesnt want to leave and wants to help my son grow out of his deep seeded problems. this question is tricky, do i end it with this guy. my son also hates him [ only b/c my b/f is strict with him and doesnt let him get away with the stuff i have], what i am afraid of is that my son rules my personal love life by making it hell for any guy i date and driving them all away. how do i speak to my son to w/o giving him the power to control who comes and goes.Answer Question
Answer by ttk2 at 9:46 AM on May. 3, 2011
Answer by meooma at 9:47 AM on May. 3, 2011
It depends. Does he have behavioral issues that are hard for him to control because of a disability such as autism? If so, then yes, I would probably leave the boyfriend. But if his behavioral issues come from more of you letting him get his way all the time, then no I wouldn't leave the boyfriend but I could certainly understand the boyfriend leaving you.
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:49 AM on May. 3, 2011
Answer by Genice6 at 9:50 AM on May. 3, 2011
Kids sometimes will develop behavioral issues because they aren't parented strictly. Kids actually crave direction and rules because they aren't mature enough to figure things out for themselves. You have given DS the power, you need to take it back. IMHO, you need to change the way you parent. Your BF is showing you how to be a better parent. Follow his lead.
You need to change the way you parent before you speak to your son. The issue is that you have let him get away with stuff that you shouldn't have. He will always want to do this as this is how you have taught him to behave. He's young. If he's going to be an adult who listens to his boss or a husband who works with his wife, you need to start teaching him to follow your rules.
It will be hard, but it's doable at 9.
Answer by JSD24 at 9:54 AM on May. 3, 2011
Answer by TARARENEE at 9:56 AM on May. 3, 2011
DD has Aspergers and ADHD. You need to discipline him as I discipline DD. It will be he** in the short run but it will get better. I'm seeing and doing it here. (((hugs)))
Answer by JSD24 at 9:57 AM on May. 3, 2011
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